What does marriage mean to you?

Posted by on March 23, 2012 in Discuss-Debate | 15 comments

What does marriage mean to you?

How do you define marriage? What makes it sacred? If marriage = a loving couple committing to each other for the rest of their lives, who else should be part of the equation? Some people believe a marriage is only valid if done in church by a priest, while others are content to be legally married in a courthouse. Some couples want to have a ceremony to involve all the people they love as witnesses of the solidifying of their union. Some couples already feel committed to their bond but want the law to acknowledge their bond for tax, insurance, and other legal purposes such as having the rights of a family member in emergency matters surrounding their beloveds. What does marriage mean to you, and what could possibly threaten that meaning?

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  1. I lived with a man for a while, and one night, at a friend”s apartment, while a bit drunk, we declared ourselves husband & wife, and we meant it. About 6 years later we were properly married according to the state & with a priest. 2 years after that, I was filing for divorce. I think inviting church and state into the bond between two people kind of depletes the meaning. There”s nothing more precious than the power of a voluntary union between two people with no paperwork binding the love. I think once you try to bind love, or claim control over it enough to promise that it will be around forever, it gets offended and starts planning its escape! I think love alone defines marriage, and everything else should keep out! I think the state should stay out of marriage entirely and allow people to do some kind of legal work to mutually claim whatever people they want to claim as family for whatever emergency or tax purposes.

    • Wow!!! …..nice!!!!

  2. Dear Happily Divorced,
    That won”t happen in your lifetime or mine… Too many lawyers and religions will not let that happen.

    • I don”t know, realist. Lots has happened in my lifetime that I never expected. With the Occupy Movement, assaults on women”s reproductive rights, and everyone ready to reassess everything and start all over again, I don”t think we can really guess what might happen next!

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  4. If you now you love someone then nothing and no won should change that, if your married or not. You and your loved one should understand that. And when something difficult happens it should bring you closer not farther.
    That is what love is to me.

  5. Honestly I think marriage means different things to each individual, and can change depending on age and personal experience. I have My first marrigage was 20 years ago. I had one child out of wedlock at the age of 18 and then tookoff down hill from there for some time!! I met another guy a year after my child was born. We dated (very unhealty but I was young)I got pregnant 6 years later…. Had started to attend church some time before that and after having my second child was convicted in to getting married … Not becausse it was with someone I loved and couldn”t live without.. But because I had a child and should do the right thing in “GOD”S eyes. That unhealthyy realationship went on for sometime I had another child and while I was pregnant with mhy third DIVORCED the man…. Went back a year later for the kids sake. Left again .. Moved back home three states away and became a struggling single mother with a deadbeat ex husband. Twelve years later after leaving the church and crawling back due do depression and sturggles I ment a church goer…
    got married again… YECK ..Now don”t get me wrong I believe in marrage… wooph what exactly is marriage??? Lies, cheating ,drugs, jail , anger, debt…. That was my experience… . Tried again… This one lasted two years before I stopped banging my head against the wall.. Got divorced left the church and moved on.. It took me three years to get past all of the psychological and emotional pain. My kids and I have stuck together in lots of things. They grew up and I grew up. I don”t what has kept me from becoming bitter or mean… So my life changed two years ago. The last one flew the coop I sown sized start back to college me another man.. This time I wasn”t wanting more than a friendship. Well with real honest, meaning putting all things good, bad, scary, ugly, taboo, and sexual on the table. We have what I believe is a real and healthy relationship. Each one responsible for their own choices and decisions, respect, love and communication. He fell first and supported my desire to take it REAL slow… From a man who never wanted to get married and has had various sexual expedriences my partner, lover, best friend, had decided that marriage was actually an option. Ours is not one of convience but of mutual love and desire. We still have seperate houses and spend time apart. Marriage is not a piece of paper. I feel, but one of commitment , understanding , love in various forms, respect, communication, openness, honesty, desire, give and take, and so much more, the willngness to learn, grow and listen. Really it”s the relationship not the religion, opinons of others, paper, law, dogma …. WOW did I run off at the mouth,
    Chrissy

  6. I believe that everyone should have the same opportunitity to marry the person that they love and want to be with for the rest of their lives no matter if it is between a man and a women, a man and a man, or a women and a women. I feel with President Obama openly coming out in support of gay marriage that there will possibly be a change in the legal system sooner rather than later.

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