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Three Generations in Cuernevaca: A Travel MemoirKathy Stradley My daughter Becky was getting fluent by now, having taken four years of Spanish in high school and some college classes. Last summer she visited Costa Rica with a group of students from her junior college for a month of intensive language instruction, travel and culture. She came back enraptured with the beautiful scenery and friendly people, but not with the giant sized bugs inhabiting both rain forest and beaches. I was less adventurous than either my daughter or my mother, but as a first grade teacher struggling with a large Spanish speaking population at my school, I too was attending Spanish classes for busy teachers. These classes met once a week. They were never intensive enough for me to progress beyond a certain basic level. I could usually follow a parent’s conversation enough to know the subject, but not what they were saying about it. Verbs in their many forms were my downfall! Therefore, an immersion experience in Spanish appealed to me both as a travel adventure and as a tax write off. My mom had originated the idea, so she insisted on making the arrangements. Becky had been impressed with her Costa Rica experience. She wanted to go through her junior college as she had done before. However, I needed upper division units to receive service credit as a teacher. In the end we relinquished the making of arrangements to my mother. She attended an orientation at her local state college and signed us all up. Becky and I shared some slight reservations with this plan. It wasn’t as if mom hadn’t traveled all over Europe and the Middle East on prearranged tours, but sometimes planning the details escaped her. In addition, she was somewhat naïve in money matters, being of a generation in which husbands handled all financial matters. In the end we cast our reservations aside, and with great anticipation filled out forms, checked passports, paid fees and packed. I was only able to attend the last pre trip meeting, which occurred on a Saturday. Here we met our tour guide, academic advisor and fearless leader, Dr. Cuervo. With his professorial glasses perched on the end of his brown nose, he looked rather like a Cuban Bill Cosby. Invariably social, he chatted about the wonderful program we had in store. As chairman of the Spanish Department, he assured us that he had been leading these tours for over five years and that we were in good hands. Finally, with bags in tow, we boarded our Mexicana airlines flight from LAX, headed for Mexico City, and to our ultimate destination, the garden city of Cuernevaca. Straining our eyes to find the sign for our group among the multitude of tour guides, relatives and friends meeting the flight, we soon spotted our amiable professor with four bewildered students in tow. We joined the party hoisting our bags through the crush of people. As we waited for the professor to collect others, we chatted with our fellow travelers. A very tall, athletic black woman was traveling with her son, who was ten years old. She was married to a professional basketball player. She looked like she too could tear up a basketball court without any trouble. A short, pretty, oriental girl about the age of my daughter was also in a teacher training program. She had the unusual nickname of Cricky. She and Becky bonded instantly. The last two members of the group were friends, but they were completely different in looks and temperament. One had blond, Swedish good looks while the other was a tall, stout brunette. Both were quite fluent in Spanish, loved the Mexican culture, and had traveled extensively in Mexico already. We were glad to have some experienced travelers in our midst. Our professor completed his roll call. We were herded outside to the bus waiting to whisk us to our destination. The bus trip from Mexico City took about an hour, but we were fascinated by the scenery rolling by, telling ourselves over and over again that we were in the heart of Mexico. This was no Americanized border town. We wanted the real thing. We arrived in the beautiful city of Cuernevaca, playground for the wealthy, steeped in history and tradition. I fell in love with the beautiful old campus of our language school, a center of bilingual and multicultural study, one of the most well established in the region. We waited in a large hall as the last of the travelers trickled in. All waited with anticipation and excitement for the Mexican families to arrive and claim us as their own for the duration of our stay. We were lucky! Mom, at age 75, was the oldest of the group, so we were housed with a family nearby, only a short walk from our school. We were lucky also, because, unlike some of the wealthy host families who abdicated their role as mentors to hired help, our family took care of us themselves; cooking dinner each night, spending time at the table after dinner coaching us in conversation, answering our questions and comparing viewpoints on many issues. We learned so much from them about life as a middle class family in Mexico. Much of what we learned no textbook could ever teach us. To add to our pleasure, Isabel, the mother of the family, was a gourmet cook delighting us with empanadas, watermelon juice squeezed on her big home press, and wonderful concoctions of vegetables and cactus pears. Alberto, the father of the family, had cable television (a rarity in Mexico). He kept up with CNN, world events, and news. He could talk knowledgeably about foreign relations with China, compare our social security system with Mexico’s retirement system, and discuss world trade matters. We felt blessed to have been sent here! The family had two grown daughters; one married and living on a ranch some 30 miles away, another an artist who managed an art studio in town. Their youngest, a modern thinking young woman, had decided to forgo planning a fancy Quinciniera and instead take a trip to Europe with her older sister the following summer. The home of Isabel and Alberto was a two-story gated Spanish style house with wrought iron bars on the windows and a yard graced by anabundance of flowers and a few old trees. A welcoming front patio withwrought iron bench provided a place to sit and contemplate the garden. Theair had a soft, tropical feel and the exotic sounds of wild parrots and other unknown species of birds filled the air. At an earlier time, Isabel’s family had owned a much larger acreage,but they had gradually sold off plots of land to three neighbors. During onestressful period, when the vagaries of a changing government did notrecognize as legal the deed to their property, they were required to rebuytheir home after having it completely paid off. Essentially, they had boughttheir house twice. Alberto, a retired postal worker had a relatively good governmentpension, but with three children, one still in secondary school, Isabel still used payments from the language school for housing their students to help make ends meet. And Isabel worked hard! She was up before us each morning making watermelon juice in her juice press, firing up the big stove and preparing savory dishes with the freshest fruits, vegetables and chiles she could find. She had a girl come in once a week to help with the heavy cleaning. She attacked housecleaning with the fervor of a fanatic. Her standards were the highest. Alberto, being retired, helped with the washing up after dinner and the heavy lifting, but Isabel insisted on doing all of the cooking herself. We came to be known as “Los Tres Generaciones”, that is “The Three Generations”, by our family and others at the language school. Saturday morning after our arrival we were walking through cobblestoned streets lined with ancient buildings to our venerable language school for placement testing. This hour long examination would determine our level of Spanish proficiency and set our schedule of classes for the duration of our stay. We were grouped by levels. Becky scored “advanced”. My mom was designated “intermediate” while I barely made “beginning intermediate”. I was relieved to find out I had gained “intermediate” status,as the rank beginners attended classes at a satellite campus. I would remain with my family in the beautiful old buildings of the main campus. Our core class was an intensive three hour language session with only six students to a teacher. Here we would have many opportunities to practice speaking with others at our level of ability. There were larger lecture classes on the idioms and expressions common in Spanish. We would have fun comparing English expressions like, “You’re pulling my leg” to the Spanish equivalent “You’re pulling my hair”. Both indicate you are joking with me. Some of the literal translations were hilarious to us. We spent many free moments first trying to use these expressions in conversation, then laughing at the results. After our lecture class we would eat at the picnic tables on the patio where volunteers from the community would converse with us about anything we found interesting. This was a great opportunity to ask questions, get advice and learn about the city of Cuernevaca. The only request was “Spanish only, please”. For the diehards there was one on one tutoring, which could be conducted anywhere they wanted to go. The local bar, a restaurant, shops or the downtown square, called the zocolo, all were places to practice with a tutor. In the late afternoons we could meet with other students at a “café social”, usually conducted at a local eatery, where we could order coffee or a drink and converse some more. The only rule in all of these locales was to speak only Spanish. That was sometimes hard among our three generation family. Grandma was the worst. She would easily lapse into English when talking to Becky or me. The point for her was always to say as much as possible. It was frustrating for her to have to say it right. I had the opposite problem. I wanted to say it perfectly or not at all. I would always try to say something far too complicated for my language ability. I would not settle for the easy phrase. We were always “shushing” each other when a faculty member came by after we had inadvertently lapsed again into English. The result of all this conversation in Spanish was exhaustion every night from the effort of dredging up the correct Spanish words to express ourselves. Exhaustion also resulted from the effort of listening to others speaking Spanish and trying to piece together the meaning of what they were saying. Now I could understand why my Spanish speaking first graders got so tired struggling to express themselves in English. There was also Spanish homework each night after dinner until our tired brains shut down and shouted “enough!” I slept each night like the dead, without movement or interruption. Becky was quickly immersed in the younger crowd, most of them still in college or a few years into their first job. Some were teachers while others planned to become teachers. Most were already fairly fluent including the two young men who became our substitute tour directors when we discovered how flighty and disorganized our professor could be. The first young man, Raul, was short and intense. He was half Mexican with small round glasses and the look and drive of a Russian revolutionary. He was an intellectual, identifying with the poor and the powerless. The second young man, Jeff, was a middle school teacher with great compassion and wisdom in one so young. They both had an excellent command of Spanish, knowledge of the culture and the savy of a native in getting around the country. We quickly discovered that our professor had no sense of direction. He would ask for directions from any passerby every few blocks as we trailed behind him. He was prone to forgetting about us when he began socializing at a bar or nightclub. Raul and Jeff helped us out more than once, after we had been abandoned by our fearless leader. Crickey was the sweet Oriental girl Becky had met at the airport and there were three or four others who became Becky’s constant companions. A young man who taught some of the advanced classes at the school found the time to walk Becky home a few times. With her dark eyes and flashing smile she could almost pass for a native. I think he was a little smitten with her, although she assured us that they were just friends. In my small, intensive grammar and conversation class there were more people my age. I recall a lawyer from west Texas who described himself as a “yeller dog” democrat. When we asked what that meant, he said he would vote the democratic ticket even if a “yeller dog” was the candidate. We discussed politics a lot with our young teacher, Miguel Angel, named for Michael the Archangel. He was from the mountainous silver mining region of Taxco where Isabel of our host family had grown up. We discussed the issue of discrimination against the indigenous peoples of Mexico which still exists in many regions today. We remarked on the distrust of government and official news media we observed among the Mexican people we came in contact with. We plied Miguel with questions about his experiences as a child and as a citizen of Mexico today. There was another female teacher, in addition to myself, the Texas lawyer and a young college student from Northern California in our class. We had many lively discussions with so many points of view, as Miguel goaded us on, aiding our pronunciation along the way and helping us to rephrase our garbled Spanish. As I walked around during breaks I heard German and Swedish accents as well as British and American English accents. It was truly an international community!
Submitted by: Kathleen Stradley
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